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2009

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:50:33 -0330

Though I didn't document much of it here, 2009 was a rollarcoaster of a year. So many great things happened, but some really sucky things happened too. This year, I:

- Traveled to Hong Kong, Thailand, and Laos
- Developed severe anxiety
- Finished 2 distance courses with A's
- Turned 25
- Watched the 1st of my good friends get married in Newfoundland
- Paid off my university debt
- Took care of my cat when he had ear mites (eww) and my boyfriend while he was sick
- Hung out with my family for 6 weeks
- Made some very tough decisions (see below)
- Got into university (again), and turned down the offer
- Moved to China by myself (more on that later)
- Got a dream internship doing art education in Beijing

I've learned a lot this year, but I'm ready for a new decade. Let's be friends, 2010.

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chiang mai

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 14:03:00 -0230

Near the end of two and half weeks of travel through South East Asia, D and I found ourselves with a choice to make. We had gotten ourselves to Luang Prabang, but we weren't sure which direction to go next. We needed to end up in Bangkok about 4 days later, so we could either fly to Cambodia and spend too little time there, or we could head back into Thailand by plane or bus and see the well known northern city of Chiang Mai. We decided to fly to Chiang Mai, mostly because a 17 hour bus ride was at the end of the list of things I was interested in doing right then. We forked over 100 USD to the infamous Lao Airlines and spent only 1 hour in the air.

I had heard very good things about Chiang Mai before arriving. I was told that it was much smaller and less modern than Bangkok, and that it therefore felt much closer to traditional Thai culture. If you want to study the Thai language, Thai cooking or any other Thai art or sport, Chiang Mai is likely where you'll end up. Many small schools have opened there in the last 20 years to fill the tourists demand for studying authentic Thai culture.

The first thing I noticed off the plane was the slow pace of the city. In the few days we spent there, we only came across one major busy road. Though it is indeed a full-fledged city, Chiang Mai felt much more like a small town. The streets are not crowded, and people are friendly (There are friendly people in Bangkok too, but they are likely trying to sell you something). We were surprised at how laid back the Chiang Mai markets and restaurants really were.

Another thing the Chiang Mai area is known for is the tour package. Whether you want to go rafting, elephant riding or hiking among northern Thai villages, there is something for everyone. We opted to go on a one day tour that allowed us to do all three of those things. We started at an elephant park, where our group took a ride through the forest on elephant back. Then we went down a river on bamboo rafts. I nearly fell off about 8,000 times, but it was a great way to see what the bush looks like. We hiked through the forest to a waterfall, and later we toured around a village, where a native tribe has lived for hundreds of years. It was a day well spent and a great end to our vacation. Our pictures are here.

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laos

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 12:03:46 -0230

Laos is a country I had never really heard of until about a year ago. It's nestled between the more well known countries of Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia and China, but perhaps because it is landlocked it hasn't earned the same reputation among tourists looking for beaches. In the last few years, however, more and more tourists have been making their way across Laos by bus or river boat (the only real options for traveling aside from flying) to experience the relatively unspoiled culture. Compared to the busy and crowded cities of its neighbors, Laos is a breath of fresh air. It's also a communist country, but that fact seems to have little impact on most tourists (as long as they aren't trying to do or smuggle drugs).

In the middle of our winter holiday travels, we opted to spend a week making our way north from the capital of Vientiane to the village of Vang Vieng, and then onward to Luang Prabang (a world heritage site). Each place felt very unique, but they were all equally sleepy and relaxed. Vientiane is a rather small capital city, and is best known for its riverfront eateries and sunsets. Vang Vieng is a village of one major street (and no traffic stops) that caters purely to the tourists who find themselves there. The main street is comprised of restaurant after restaurant, serving everything from pizza to french toast (one of the remaining influences of the French colonization of Laos). Even more odd was that each restaurant had at least one giant flat screen tv mounted to the wall playing dvds of Friends, Family Guy and the Simpsons on repeat. If it weren't for the fact that you are sitting on pillows rather than chairs, you could easily drift into thinking you were not in the middle of Laos, but in Canada. This town is also known for its views, as it sits between the mountains, and beside the Mekong river. Many visitors take to the river on rubber tubes. Luang Prabang is the most northern city, known for its European influence in architecture and way of life, which likely had a hand in why I fell in love with this city immediately. I even had thoughts of returning to work with one of the many NGOs that are based there.

Unfortunately, I got a little sick at this point in the trip, which has tainted my image of the city. Plus, I'm not sure I'm ready to move somewhere that requires me to take daily malaria pills. Or that can only be reached by more than a day on a bus through the mountains. Although, you could also fly in on Lao Airlines, the airline with a less than stellar safety record. When we were ready to head back to the north of Thailand, we found ourselves on one of their planes. It wasn't all that bad, but I had my hands firmly gripped onto the arm rests for the entire one hour flight. After a week of hours long bus rides and lazy days, it seemed a much too short ride back to the more modern world.

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well, so much for the blogging

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 07:34:45 -0230

So July has been busier than I expected. I haven't been blogging, photographing, studying Spanish, or reading! Instead I've been planning and teaching a summer camp, working out, and trying not to expire from the humidity. I've also been trying to clean a lot in an attempt to figure out if the boyfriend is possibly allergic to something inside our apartment. He's been having some majorly crappy symptoms. Oh! And! I've been trying to figure out what I'll be doing once my contract ends. So far I have planned as far as September, when I'll be flying to Canada for several weeks to attend a good friends wedding in Newfoundland (yay!) and spending some quality time with family and friends (double yay!). I can't believe it's nearly August. This summer has gone by so quickly, so I'm looking forward to spending the next month fully enjoying the rest of it. Let's try this again...

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project summer

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 09:59:17 -0230

As of today I'm done teaching regular classes at my school. The next three weeks will be full of speaking tests and contests, special study classes and final exams, and then six weeks of summer vacation will begin. Though I'll still be working quite a bit, I'm going to have more free time than usual, and I'm feeling the need to make good use of it. Thus, project summer. Here are a few things I hope to spend time on in the next two months:

1) Blogging: This blog has been severely neglected in the last year or so. I haven't stopped thinking about things I want to write during that time, but I haven't found the motivation to actually write them. I still need to write about the rest of our January trip (Laos and Thailand) for petes sake! Also, I'm about 90% sure I'll be leaving Korea at the end of August, so I'm feeling the urge to document my life here. I'm hoping to write a post every week or so.

2) Photographing: I always seem to be taking a lot of pictures, but I feel like I haven't sufficiently documented some of my favourite things about Korea, so I want to spend a couple of hours just walking around our town taking pictures. This place is full of good photo ops.

3) Studying Spanish: I bought a "Teach Yourself: Spanish" book months ago and have yet to get past page 5. While I realize I won't be fluent with just this book and two months, I figure it's a good start to learning the language I most want to learn. I should really just move to a Spanish speaking country, as I've picked up quite a lot of Korean without even trying.

4) Reading: I spend too much time in front of my work and home computers. In fact, almost all of my time at home is either spent cleaning, cooking, or watching a computer screen, but when I snuggle up in bed with a book and my boys, I am most content. So, I'm going to read more. Book suggestions are welcome.

5) Working out: We've been going to a local gym for a few months, but my efforts have been sporadic and inconsistent, so I'm attempting to up those efforts to gym visits (or playing tennis) 5 times a week. Weekends are not meant for working out.

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25

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 23:29:22 -0230

Last week I turned 25. It seems like a rather monumental birthday, if only because I can FINALLY rent a car. I made sure to celebrate in style, with lots of good food, friends and fun. D and I had dinner at a favourite Thai restaurant in Seoul, then we joined some friends for drinks and cake (and party hats!) at a relaxed bar, and ended the night at a basement place called "Reggae Bar" that felt exactly like someone's hippy living room. It was wonderful. I decided I would like to have a picnic the next day, so we made our way to the only real park I've ever come across in Seoul and made an afternoon of it, complete with cupcakes, brie, baguettes, and frisbee. Here are some pictures. Only this year did it occur to me that I've had a picnic on every one of my last 5 birthdays. I started a tradition without even realizing, but I fully intend to continue it.

So, 25. I feel like an official adult now, which feels both awesome and terrible. I feel more in control of my life than I ever have before, but also much more responsible for my actions and decisions. I love the freedom I have to live how I choose, but I feel the guilt that comes with it more now. I've also never been so aware of how scary and dangerous the world is, though I feel like it is wide open for me (and others) to explore.

This year has been a test for me, but also an opportunity. I don't think I would have come back to Korea if I had known that the tension between north and south would escalate so high this year. It has caused me a lot of anxiety to be
living in North Korea's backyard, but it has tested my endurance and my strength of character to have stayed. There is no way to know whether I will be in danger while I'm living here, but I'm proud of myself for dealing with the anxiety and being as responsible as I can be in this situation. At the same time, this year back in Korea has given me the opportunity to achieve some of my goals. I've had the time and money to finish two courses I needed to take. I've had the great chance to meet and work with Korean and foreign artists, and I've been able to pay back my university debt. It feels like my 25th was a very full year.

Looking toward my next year, my goals are not so clear. There are certainly things I know I want to achieve in the next 3-5 years, but none of them seems particularly urgent. I think it's a foregone conclusion that I want travel to remain a big part of my life. Though it scares me a bit, I'm not sure I'll ever get over the need to explore and experience new places. I'm also certain that I want art to become a bigger priority in my life, and that teaching has become important to me as well. For the time being, I'm trying to take the societal pressure to achieve the expected standards off of myself. All I want at 25 is to have purpose and balance in whatever I'm doing.

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hong kong

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 00:03:40 -0230

As a public school teacher in Korea, I have almost 6 weeks off teaching in January and February. During this time, D and I decided to take two weeks of holiday and head south. Hoping to add to my list of 'cities I could live in', we took advantage of a cheap flight from Seoul to Bangkok, via Hong Kong. It seems a lot of international flights around Asia have stop overs in cities like Hong Kong, Taipai, and Tokyo, and with many tickets, you can extend your stay in the stop-over city for several days without an extra fee. Thus, we decided to spent three days in the former British colony before flying to Thailand.

I could definitely live in Hong Kong. Though it's a bit too civilized for D's taste, I loved being in such a modern city that still offered traditional Chinese culture. Sure, it's more expensive than Seoul, but it's also cleaner! You can get any kind of food, electronic, or clothing you can imagine. It has the outdoor markets, and street food of all Asia cities, but you can hop on the subway for a few stops and find yourself in a road that could easily be mistaken for NYC. I can easily say that Hong Kong is the most international city I've been to. We heard dozens of langauges being spoken, and saw people from all over the world. It's full of vibrancy, colour, and culture. I especially liked the odd mixture of architectural styles and shapes. Examples, here.

I was happy to simply wander around Kowloon for hours, but there were some stand out things we had to do before we left. My favourite parts of Hong Kong were the ones that gave me a view. We took a tram up to "The Peak", which is a small tourist village at the top of Victoria mountain on Hong Kong Island. It gives you the quintessential view of the city, and gets your heart beating with excitement. It was almost as good as the shots from "The Dark Knight". The other place I loved was the Tian Tan Buddha on Lantau Island. To get there, you can either take a bus (boring!) or take a gondola on a 20 minute trip up and into the mountains. We decided to splurge (which happened a lot in Hong Kong) and took the gondola on the way up. We made the trip near the end of the day, as the sun was starting to set, and it was one of the best moments of the whole trip. Sadly, the gondola windows do not make for good photographs. But, I love that you can travel for 30 minutes from the city center and then find yourself out in the mountains.

hong kong

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these shoes were made for traveling

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 11:42:04 -0330

Last month we traveled around South East Asia for about two and a half weeks. We went to Hong Kong, Thailand (Bangkok and Chiang Mai) and Laos (Vientiane, Vang Vieng, and Luang Prabang). It was a wonderful trip, with a nice mix of food, adventure, culture and summer weather! I'll write about each place individually soon, but first I need to tell you about a discovery I've made. I've found the most fantastic travel shoes. They aren't necessarily meant for travel, but when I found them I thought they had all the makings of a good travel shoe, and I was right.

The company that makes these shoes is called TOMS. It was started by a participant of one of my favourite shows, The Amazing Race. While traveling through several developing regions Blake Mycoskie noticed many children were living without proper shoes. He had an idea and sought to help remedy the problem. He started TOMS shoes on the 'one for one' principal that for every pair of shoes he sold, he would donate another pair to a child in a country like Argentina or South Africa. Since he started the company in 2006, TOMS shoes has given shoes to upwards of 200,000 children around the world.

As soon as I heard about this company, I went to the website and decided I wanted to buy a pair of TOMS myself. I looked through the styles offered and settled on these. I loved the neutral colour and the wild animals print inside. Little did I know then that I would end up wearing them while riding an elephant! The next step, of actually purchasing said shoes, proved quite difficult since I live in South Korea. Unfortunately, TOMS doesn't currently send online orders to Asia, so I had to track down one of the 5 or so stores in Seoul that carry TOMS. I went to one in MyungDong, called 'ALand'. I was happy to find they stocked the style I wanted (and also that they have a second hand store on their 3rd floor!), and I happily forked over my $42 USD. I am proof that when you offer a customer something extra (especially something worthwhile) with their purchase, that customer is willing to pay a lot more than normal for your product.

I walked around in my TOMS before our trip, wanting to make sure they 'wore in' before we left. I was pleasently surprised to find they didn't need it. They were comfortable from the minute I put them on and they haven't stopped being comfortable since. I was also happy to feel how lightweight they are, which is the second most important traveling requirement. Comfortable? Check. Lightweight? Check. Two for two. The other benefits of making these my 'travel shoes' revealed themselves once we were on the road. In the past I traveled through warm climates primarily doning flip flops or other sandals. While I adore my flip flops, they do not keep my feet warm on night buses, and they do not protect my feet from mosqitos (who are potentially carrying malaria) or random things on the street I don't want to get on my feet. I was concered that they would feel too hot while I was walking around in the tropics, but I felt really comfortable in them. It was a bonus that my shoes seemed to go with almost everything I wanted to wear.

After two and a half weeks of wear through dirty cities and rough countryside, my TOMS held up very well. The quality of these shoes is very high, and I would trust them to stand up to a much longer trip as well. Obviously, I would recommend other travelers get a pair of TOMS. Not only do they make a great travel shoe, but they also give us an opportunity to improve the quality of life of people we often meet while traveling. Now I need to find a reason to justify the purchase of these lovely TOMS wrap boots.

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what i'm listening to, january 2009

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 22:10:13 -0330

1. 'Crick Crack' - The Lovers
2. 'Buy Your Side' - Alex and Sam
3. 'Eyes' - Rogue Wave
4. 'Skinny Love' - Bon Iver
5. 'To Build a Home' - The Cinematic Orchestra
6. 'The Debtor' - Miles Benjamin Anthony Robinson
7. 'Staralfur' - Sigor Ros
8. 'La Valse d'Amelie' -Yann Tierson
10. 'Postcards from Italy' -Beirut
11. 'Trains to Brazil' - Guillemots
12. 'Move on up' - Curtis Mayfield

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resolutions

nobody@vox.com(aveleigh) — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 08:10:51 -0330

This is the first year in many that I've had a desire to make new years resolutions. I think it's because this year I discovered just how much I like making them. In 2008 I made resolutions no less than three times. Some might call what I do simply 'setting goals', but I think when we set goals for ourselves, we are resolving to improve who we are, so it's really just semantics. In order to cover all my bases, though, I made a list called "Resolutions and Goals for 2009". It looks like this:

Resolutions:
1) Take a daily multi-vitamin.
2) Cook and eat at home six days a week.
3) Dance everyday.

Goals:
1) Pay off debt.
3) Travel to Laos, Cambodia and China.
4) Apply for grad programs.

This list is interesting because I already do some of these things, and have already set others in motion. It's also not exhaustive, because I'm thinking of it more as a first draft. I know I'll make new resolutions and goals as the year moves ahead, so this is just to get me started. The last list I made was in September, and while I've made progress on some of those items, some have reappeared in the new years version. So it goes. The problem with resolutions is that they have come to be known as life changing things, with the expectation that most people will give up and return to their old, bad habits. I think they should just be things that we feel like trying or things we will be happy to have accomplished, whether it's by the end of the month or the end of another solar year. The point is to strive.

With that in mind, I'd like to share a poem. This poem reminds me of who I'm striving to be.

A Word on Statistics
by Wislawa Szymborska
(translated from Polish by Joanna Trzeciak)

Out of every hundred people,
those who always know better:
fifty-two.

Unsure of every step:
almost all the rest.

Ready to help,
if it doesn’t take long:
forty-nine.

Always good,
because they cannot be otherwise:
four — well, maybe five.

Able to admire without envy:
eighteen.

Led to error
by youth (which passes):
sixty, plus or minus.

Those not to be messed with:
four-and-forty.

Living in constant fear
of someone or something:
seventy-seven.

Capable of happiness:
twenty-some-odd at most.

Harmless alone,
turning savage in crowds:
more than half, for sure.

Cruel
when forced by circumstances:
it’s better not to know,
not even approximately.

Wise in hindsight:
not many more
than wise in foresight.

Getting nothing out of life except things:
thirty
(though I would like to be wrong).

Balled up in pain
and without a flashlight in the dark:
eighty-three, sooner or later.

Those who are just:
quite a few, thirty-five.

But if it takes effort to understand:
three.

Worthy of empathy:
ninety-nine.

Mortal:
one hundred out of one hundred —
a figure that has never varied yet.

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